Sunday, March 21, 2010

Stay-at-Home Moms say Thanks for "The Stay-at-Home Survival Guide"

I wasn't paid much to write The Stay-at-Home Survival Guide. In fact, the money I earned was poured right back into marketing the book. (Although The Guide wasn't self-published, small publishers don't put a lot of effort or funds into promoting their titles.) My profits from the book have been personal. I'm still amazed by having actually written a book and I'm so appreciative of the many readers who written to me with their praise and thanks. It's corny to say, but it really is payment enough to know that the book is helping women. I hope that stay-at-home moms who happens upon this blog will be encouraged, and perhaps comforted, by the following notes.

(To protect the privacy of the women who emailed me I'm not posting their full names or identifying details.)

From Beth: I just finished your book and wanted to say thank you, thank you, thank you.... I struggle with just about every topic mentioned in your book. I have read too many books to count to try to help me sort out my feelings of loneliness, boredom (even though there's always something to do), wanting to be by myself, and guilt as to why I even have these feelings in the first place (good mom syndrome).... Your book is THE ONLY BOOK I have read that actually helped, that actually made sense. So many books make jokes about the work/lives of stay-at-home moms and brush off seriously considering and validating many of the emotional struggles stay-at-home moms have. Other books focus solely on using religion or God as a main source to help you through. I needed something in between and your book did just that.... My working mom friends have no idea what I'm talking about (why I complain, so I usually don't), and while some of my stay-at-home friends have some similar struggles, not all those you mentioned.... Your book was/is amazing and I will highly recommend it to any other stay-at-home moms I know who are having struggles. I so appreciate your honesty and sincerity—I almost felt as though you were sitting in my living room chatting with me as a friend! 

From Aimee: I just ordered your book from This morning I was scrolling around the Mamazina website and saw your interview from last year. I almost cried reading your words. I so relate.... I, too, can describe those initial weeks and even months [after leaving my career to be a stay-at-home mom] as pure bliss.... But after a few months, productivity turned to monotony, and the loss of my identity became stifling. Yet, I have never stopped smiling and saying, "Great!" when people ask, "How is it to be HOME?" Any other response would signal failure... It's been a difficult year, full of rewards and challenges, just like any other job.

From Jill: I found The Stay-at-Home Survival Guide one night when, after a particularly long week, I Googled "mind numbing stay-at-home mom" .... I feel so much better knowing that many other mothers are going through the same trials and tribulations. It's usually hard to get moms to be honest. Most just say what a blessing it is, but many don't say it's so hard sometimes, and you don't enjoy everyday, and that's OK!!! I've felt everything you talked about in your book and identified with so many (like the lady whose degrees mock her or the lady who feels like she's in the movie Groundhog Day as she lives the same day over and over). I've felt the same as almost every mom in your book and I can't tell you how happy I am with your honesty on each subject. What a great book!

1 comment:

Stephanie said...

I absolutely loved the book and have recommended it countless times. I think I got it after being home for maybe 6-8 months? I'm not sure exactly, but it was a lifesaver. People use that term so loosely - heck, it is even the name of a candy - but it honestly was my saving grace. I still pick it up from time to time and reread a chapter when I need a refresher.

Thank you for sharing it with the world! I wish you got more ka-ching! for it, but I'm glad to know the personal benefits have been positive.

Looking forward to hearing more from you!


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